Category : Coaching Positivity

Spontaneous Humor: Ho Ho Ho Frivolous Play Flow!

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

© 2011 Dr. Judy Krings

Are you the type who loves all the hustle and bustle of the holidays?
Or are you someone who feels like Scrooge on a bad day and wishes
all the folderol was over?  Maybe you are somewhere in between.
Regardless, I have a solution to lighten up your load for the holidays
as well as your New Year to-do lists.

Spontaneous “frivolous flow play!”

I read this phrase from StoryPeople the other day and cracked up. Me to a tee:
“Silly in Public: I figured out that if I keep it up, someday I’ll probably get wise
enough to be silly in public but I probably won’t wait that long.”

I didn’t wait long as this photo reveals!

Did you ever sit on Santa’s lap? Were you scared?
Did you eye him up good before you took a seat?

When I was about 5, I remember seeing the string on Santa’s beard and asking
myself, “What’s with that?”  I asked Mom, and she said he was a helper. Santa was
too busy to be everywhere at one time. That was all I needed to hear.
Whew, Santa was real!

When I was in Delaware visiting Mom as few weeks ago, my best friend,
Cheryl Lynn eyed Santa and Mrs. Claus sitting on the boardwalk ready
for the young’ins to arrive. I couldn’t resist! Memories are a soft place to land.

Here’s a tip. Get someone to take a photo of your frolic.
I was so appreciative Cheryl caught the moment. Any time with her is a treat,
but we now have another shared memory to laugh at and roll our eyeballs
when our tandem rocking chairs creak. A double-your-pleasure of positive reminiscing.

Hope your holidays sparkled. What frivolous fun play might you allow yourself today?
Funny how jumping at an opportunity to laugh while others gasp fills up your
gratitude tank and re-frames the moment to joy.

Is that you I spy looking for an opportunity to pounce?
I love to here from you! What did you do to curl your toes this holiday season?

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Want more frivolous fun flow in 2012?  Join me in Cuba…

Savor a new adventure and the beautiful photography in my new book:
Photo Adventures in Cuba ~ Unlock Your Power of Positivity”
Click here to take a peek!

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I’d love to hear from you!
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Sharpening Wisdom ~ Positivity Pencil Tips

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

© 2011 Dr. Judy Krings

What does a pencil mean to you?

My husband sent me this message about a pencil.
I’d never seen it. I included it as is, but you know me.
I had to sharpen my own pencil and add five more friendly, non-toxic tips.

A Pencil Maker told the pencil 5 lessons just before putting it in the box:

1. Everything you do will always leave a mark.

2. You can always correct the mistakes you make.

3. What is important is what is inside of you.

4.  In life you will undergo painful sharpening;
which will only make you better.

5. To be the best pencil you must allow yourself to be held
and guided by the hand that holds you.

We all need to be constantly sharpened.
This parable may encourage you to know that you are a special person,
with unique God-given talents and abilities.  Only you can fulfill
the purpose which you were born to accomplish.
Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think that your life is
insignificant and cannot be changed and, like the pencil, always
remember that the most important part of who you are, is what’s
inside of you and then allow yourself to be guided by the hand of God.

Judy’s 5 Tips To Wisdom Bliss:

1. Your pencil showcases your strengths.
Creativity, kindness, and gratitude to name a few.

2. Your life may get dull. It’s up to you to be aware and seek out new opportunities.

3.  What you write on your wall of life also affects others.
Be mindful your writing language is powerful.

4. You can share your pencil with another who has none.
Communities share great stories!

5. You are creative, resourceful, whole, and enough. Your pencil is magic.
Your possibilities are infinite!

Ok, what would you add? Come on! Stretch your creativity muscle.
I’d love to read your pencil-packin’ wisdom.

Is that you I see with a sharpener?

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And speaking of writing, the holidays are coming.
Treat yourself, friends and family to my new book:
Photo Adventures in Cuba ~ Unlock Your Power of Positivity”
Click here to take a peek!

I’d love to hear from you!
Just send me your questions, and I will answer in a future blog.
You can also connect with me on facebook, LinkedIn, or twitter
www.facebook.com/drjudykrings

How to Celebrate When Your Goals Go Great!

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

You did it! You had a big, audacious hairy goal, and you achieved it! Hot dog dandy!
You slogged through the “I am EVER going to get closure on this?” to
“Yippee, it’s finished!”  Maybe you had to put your seatbelt on to survive
all the turbulence, but you flew through the clouds into sunny skies.

Then what? Did you unceremoniously cross it off your “I’m relieved” list?
Did you routinely move onto your next task? If so, Whoa! Hold on Bubba…
There’s something wrong with this story.

Try this instead. Slow down your train.

Remember the old adage about the guy who was riding the train in the most
beautiful country in the world? The scenery outside was magically magnificent.
Trouble is the guy never looked outside. He is so intent on getting to his
destination, he forgot to enjoy his incredible ride. He got there, but no
stunning journey fanfare.

When I finally published my book, the day came unexpectedly. After months of
publishing delays and a few bald spots from pulling my hair out, I couldn’t believe
it was happening.

Then an idea hit me! I needed to anchor the day and fly high! I hesitated a moment
before I picked up the phone to call our small airport. Clarity. Blue skies.
What better way to remember the day?

But wait, another idea took wing. I phoned my friend under the guise of having
her take photos. You know, sentimental me. What she didn’t know? She was
going with me! Till that day, I had no idea she had never flown in a small plane.
A win-win flying spin!

How have you celebrated a huge goal accomplishment? Did you pause and sit
into your joy? I sure as heck hope you took the time to let the win sink in!
You deserve it. And notice the colorful windsock saluting the sky in your honor.

I would love to hear how you celebrated your, “YES!!! I did it!” big goal
accomplishment glory. Is that you I see renting a plane and doing loop-de-loops?

Want to celebrate with me?
Gift yourself, your clients and friends with a snappy, vivacious, uplifting treat.
Humbly, I think their coffee table would be perfect for my colorful photo book
with a big positivity heart. “Photo Adventures in Cuba ~ Unlock Your Power
of Positivity.” Check out my website at…Click here to take a peek!

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I’d love to hear from you!
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Destination: Imagination and Family Frolic!

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

© 2011 Dr. Judy Krings

What do you see when you look at this pile of shoes? Is your curiosity piqued?

A mess? Fun? Wonder what was going on?

The kids and four grand kids were here for a pre-Thanksgiving free-for-all.
I love when I wake up and see all the shoe shapes and sizes. I smile knowing
one day soon, the kids will be grown. I will look at this photo and sigh.
Life is so blame short.

Thanks to my friend from KC Candies, Cheryl, (you gotta treat yourself to these!),
we noshed on gigantic, gluttonous caramel toffee apples, deviled eggs I made from
friend Annie’s free-range feathered friends, cinnamon rolls, sweet and sour
meatballs, fruit salad and other goodies. Did you notice I typed the dessert first?
YUMMY!

Then the grand kids braided neon headband/necklaces and decided they made
better Frisbees! Creativity set lose in our lower level. Grins and giggles, school
stories, and the ipad2 games that stumped this Grammy. This tech savvy
foursome made my head spin!

Want to know how to savor holiday flavors? Pause, breathe, and sit in ease.
Freeze frame a happy moment and for Pete’s sake, keep your camera ready;
unless your memory is a whole lot better than mine when antics are in full swing.

What does your family unleash when you congregate and celebrate?
I’d love to know! Any positive reminiscence memories you’d like to share?
How about a game of truth or dare?

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Speaking of treats and life being short…
give yourself a new book to add giggles, art and learning into your life.
Grab your copy of my new book to discover coaching thrills and building new skills.
“Photo Adventures in Cuba ~ Unlock Your Power of Positivity”
Click here to take a peek!

I’d love to hear from you!
Just send me your questions, and I will answer in a future blog.
You can also connect with me on facebook, LinkedIn, or twitter
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5 Tips to Quit Making Excuses

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

© 2011 Dr. Judy Krings

Do you make excuses?

If things go wrong, do you “complain and explain,” to use my
husband Ken’s words. Do you look for and find reasons to justify
your decisions? Bet you know people who live this theme every day.

I read this fascinating quote from “The StoryPeople,” and
it put my neurons on fun alert. Title: Really Good.
“I don’t have a whole lot of excuses for what’s gone wrong with my life,”
she said. “But the ones I do have are really good.”

As a shrink and coach, I’m an analyzer. I love to dig into
why certain weeds incessantly try to bloom in my garden.
Even my license plate reads “Analyze.” Why?
My curiosity strength is one of my signature strengths.
I love to discovery. Maybe that’s why I love NCIS on TV.

Why do you make an excuse?
Maybe you don’t want to do something, so tell a little white lie
to get out of it. Research relays the average person (whoever that is!)
lies many times a day. No kidding!

I’ll fess up. I hate to hurt feelings. An excuse might pop up
if I need to change my plans. I project others will be disappointed,
and I hate believing that. Excuses are like potato chips. Some days
you can’t get enough of them. But do you like all the pounds they
pile upon your positivity bones?

Here are 5 tips to dump your wagon of whining, making excuses, woes:
1. State the facts and shut up!
Ken’s words again. A bit gruff sounding when you first hear them ring
in your ear, but think about it. Which seems better to you: “Hi, Jane.
I know we made plans for Sat., but I need to cancel. I am disappointed.
I would love to reschedule.”  Versus: “Hi, Jane, I really do wish we could
get together Saturday, but, ah, I need to take the cat to the vet, then do errands
I hadn’t planned on, then I need to make some phone calls I have put off,
but so sorry, and hope you can forgive me, and I really mean it…Blah blah.

2. Pause to remember to live your values.
Honesty, integrity, and authenticity are strengths cementing your reputation.
Brings to mind one of my favorite coaching questions,
“How do you want to show up?”

3. Humor is OK!
“Susie, I got caught up and am busier than a 3-armed paper hanger.
Could we reschedule so I can really enjoy our time together?”
Remember the old “Carol Burnett” show? Carol would always be yelling,
“Mama, will you just shut the hell up?” No, it’s not nice to attack others,
but the point is to learn to be assertive. Say what you need openly.
But yes, please be kind!

4. Let go of past mistakes.
They were growth opportunities. Be grateful and appreciate yourself.
Identify what is right about wonderful you, not grieve over what is wrong.
Celebrate with positive self-talk, “I feel good when I tell it like it is. I am
aware of the feelings of others and am respectful, but I stay true to myself.”

5. No guilt trips allowed!
Guilt is like rocking in a rocking chair. It’s something to do, but it doesn’t
get you anywhere. Be grateful and appreciate life. If someone lays a guilt
trip on you, remind yourself, “I am not responsible for how you hear or
translate what I kindly say.” Boundaries are essential.

Maybe excuses hit home because holidays are approaching.
“Overwhelm” seems to be the word of the day. Remember,
“Too much to do!” starts with you. Self-care is essential.
Is that you I see stopping to organize and prioritize?
Getting out the red pen to cross off some unnecessary items?
Still having a problem? Flash me an email. I’ve got a gorilla and
a black grand-dog cock-a-poo, Fido, who will happily chase them away!

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Thanks to all of you who have purchased my new book,
“Photo Adventures in Cuba ~ Unlock Your Power of Positivity”
for Thanksgiving and Christmas gifts. It’s packed with heart-warming
stories and picturesque photography.

Want more adventure?  Don’t forget to take a look at my new book…
“Photo Adventures in Cuba ~ Unlock Your Power of Positivity”
Click here to take a peek!

I’d love to hear from you!
Just send me your questions, and I will answer in a future blog.
You can also connect with me on facebook, LinkedIn, or twitter
www.facebook.com/drjudykrings