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7 Tips to Happy New Year Happiness

© 2011 Dr. Judy Krings

 

Are you the champagne guzzlin’, midnight hot-lipped kisser,
“HAPPY NEW YEAR” celebrator? Or maybe you love to sit quietly
at home and watch the NY Time Square folks in all their revelry.
Or do you sleep through the commotion thinking New Year’s is just another day?

I like to ponder the past a bit and then think how I want the
next year to be. Some years I make an intention to focus on a theme,
like “Less,” “Freedom,” Peace,” or “Forgiveness.”  Other years I have a
very specific plan and goal. Last year’s was “Get your book published!”
Talk about the need to line up all my character strengths to pull that one off!
Huge thanks to all you faithful supporters who bought my book and let me
know how much you are enjoying it. Click here to see the listing on Amazon!

How can you know, absolutely know, you will be happier this year? Here’s how:

1. Look for all the positives about yourself. If you get stuck, ask several trusted
friends what is positively unique about you. Their responses will blow you away.
Life satisfaction is a largely a result of whether you feel good about who you are.
You need to confidently know you are going in the direction of growth and
achievement. Use your strengths to stand up to adversity. Look challenges
in the eye and yell, “Bring it on!”

2. Be courageous. Know you are the master of your universe and the skilled
captain of your ship. Make an action plan and “ACT, NOT REACT” with negativity
when life seems to be rotating off its axis. You are in control. Plan and follow
through with specific goals. Be accountable!

3. Reach out to others.  Extroverted folks have an easier time in life and report
they are happier than introverts. That said, introverts can learn to be more
social, more hopeful and more upbeat if they seek out supportive relationships.
Remember, I said you need to be courageous! Even a smile opens doors.

4. Own an optimistic attitude. This is key to you becoming happier. Negativity
breeds like fruit flies! Keep those negative nuisance thoughts in their petri dish!
Be hopeful yet realistic. Watch your confidence soar. Look for the good.
You will find it if you focus on it.

5. Power up positive social relationships. This is major and two-pronged:
social support and emotional intimacy. If you have loyal and understanding
friends with whom you confide (if they add humor, all the better!), you will
report greater subjective well-being. Deep emotional relationships add
sparkle and clarity to your life. Coping with life’s problems and feeling better
about yourself is easier when you have others who emotionally care and share.

6. Vision, purpose, and meaning. Huge concepts! Add spirituality and get double
your pleasure happiness. This takes soul-searching and ongoing awareness to
achieve balance. Acknowledge what you want in life and why. Make a plan to
master your wishes. Be in the service of others as well as maintaining your own
vision. It’s OK to be off balance! That’s called NORMAL! Plant new seeds of learning
and watch your happiness grow. Be mindful of what you want in life. Keep moving
forward, even when life’s head winds make your journey challenging.

7. Negative internal dialogue? Let go of it!  When you hear your inner critic,
that nasty little part of yourself that puts you down, banish it to the sidelines.
Accept and hug it if you want, but let it know YOU are in charge of your own life.
You are a winner. Listen to your positivity. Remember to embrace your strengths.

If this were a quiz, how would you score? How about using these tips as your
New Year plan or goal? You are wonderful, creative, and have within yourself
every blame thing you need to bask in well-being and happiness.

Happy New Year! Make me dance like the Cuban dancer you see in my photo.
Flash me an email and let me know how you measure your New Year happiness.
I’ll be so grateful to hear from you.

Can you see me waving at you with a gigantic grin belting out,
“Love, Light, and Laughter! ?”

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I’d love to hear from you!
Just send me your questions, and I will answer in a future blog.
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Musical Spirituality

© 2011 Dr. Judy Krings

Have you ever worked so hard at your computer, your back was screaming,
“Have mercy!?”

You needed to take a break, but your tenacity kept you planted, typing away.
A strength, stubbornly in your way.

I argued with my backache, engendered by my strenuous weeding yesterday.
But that’s when it happened.

I got an uplifting email from my friend, Bonnie Baker, in Milford, DE.
I paused. I smiled when I saw his name, Bocelli.

A musical message helped me re-frame and get back in the real world balance game.
“Take a break, for Pete’s sake! Cut yourself some slack!,” I admonished myself.

I turned up the volume, closed my eyes, and heaven opened up.
When is the last time you let notes of joy seep into your sensorium?
How about right now?

http://www.greatdanepro.com/Pray%20For%20America/index.htm

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Feel free to send her questions you may have!

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Dr. Judy Show – Blast from 2006 Radio Past

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Does 5 years ago seem like yesterday to you? It sure as heck does for me.

Some of you know I had a nationally syndicated radio show, “The Dr. Judy Show”, out of Chicago EBN studios in 2006. It was a weekly 2-day hike by car, train, and taxi to get to Ohio Street for taping. Go the night before, tape early a.m., and immediately head back to WI. Dr. Laura Berman, Oprah and Showtime TV noted sex therapist, taped right after I did.

It was a rugged haul, not to mention anticipatory anxiety. The first day, I had the flu and nerves. I almost puked in a trash can ready for the occasion. It takes a village is a truism. I was blessed with best producer in the world and #1 in his market, Jon Quick, out of Indianapolis. The creative sound guy, Sam Youmans, lived in Texas.Texas. My stellar mentor and business promoter, the sweetest business man in the world, Russ Withers, Illinois, flew in on his private plane to lend support.

This was one big fat learning experience that gave new meaning to “the agony and the ecstasy.”

It was probably my Peter Principle life experience, but oh, did I learn answers. What did I want? What served me? What values begged be heard?  Like money vs sanity. Work vs Play.

It was one of my toughest decisions when I pulled the plug, but life is learning. For months I worked 24/7. No exaggeration. I was down to 94 pounds and everyone thought I was sick. Balance? I was so far off balance it was pathetic. But I met my goal. I did big time radio!

What was good? The local Chicago producers, all so young, were enthusiastically supportive. Before I pulled the plug, it was fun to have a recording studio in my home. But working full time as a psychologist, still doing local radio in WI, and not having time to live my life, well, it was too blamed much!

Incredible how life moves forward. Now all I do is pick up the phone, and I am instantly appearing on a radio show!

Want to take a walk back in time with me interviewing famous folks like Tom Rath, author of so many positive psychology business books? Want to hear my personal stories that celebrate, educate, and give you a good belly laugh, too?

What rock have you pitched into your life that broke your clarity windows? Don’t you love positive psychology coaching super glue?

My wonderful webmaster, Warren Samu, has resurrected some of the shows from itunes. Cheers to your happy ears!

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Optimization vs. Balance

© 2010 Dr. Judy Krings

One of my executive clients and I were discussing his relationship values. A married guy with quiet, humble brilliance, he was waxing philosophical about meaning, fulfillment, and joy. A discussion re: his lifestyle balance ensued. He cracked up when I brought up “balance” and what it meant to him. I asked, “If you are not in balance, does that mean you are off balance?”

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Blue Balance Brilliance

© 2010 Dr. Judy Krings

Did you ever think about the word, “Balance”? If you’re like me, maybe you squish your nose up and raise your eyebrows knowing you and balance don’t fit like warm bunny bedroom slippers.
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