Tag : coaching positive psychology

Did I say Thank You?

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

BREAKING NEWS! ~ Today is the Day!

With the most fantastic team at my back, my long anticipated, one-day
book launch is finally here. Yippee!

But a thought keeps coursing through my brain….Did I say THANK YOU enough?

As I sit here waiting in anticipation for my “Photo Adventures in Cuba” book
launch kick-off, it blows my mind when I comprehend my team of players.
To all of you – my family, friends, and colleagues, my steadfast virtual assistant,
Melissa Lake, my stellar first marketing coach, Judy Cullins, and my absolutely
amazing Amazon Book Coach who organized my butt, Denise Cassino, and the
80+ generous reviewers and bloggers who blasted out my promotional message…
YOU lovely folks have been the wings beneath my book launch wings. No flying to
success without each and every one of you. Your contagious excitement has
fueled my energy and wound my clock hopefully stopping at #1 bestseller.

Even if that achievement isn’t realized, you have all made this journey one I will
never forget. Living is learning and loving. And you and I have done both. That is
the real victory. We have won already.

I wonder, have I genuinely held you in my  heart, looked into your eyes and
blazed my intensely, heart-felt “Thank You?”  God knows I want you to have
my sincere gratitude forever tattooed into your  psyche. My book is YOUR book,
too, and  so is its success. I know I have emailed or said a quick “Thanks” when
corresponding along the way, but today is the day I hope  it is etched into your brain.

I wrote in my “Photo Adventures in Cuba” book’s Gratitude chapter, “Gratitude
is the joyful chorus in my life song, and my travels to Cuba helped me hit the
high notes.” I want you to know, you were in the front row of the chorus singing
along with me. And you really belted out a great song!

So, with my Gratitude strength shining through, I want to extend my big hugs
of THANK YOU to you who have offered guidance, support, and loving encour-
agement during this arduous, almost two year process. In the true spirit of
Perseverance and Teamwork, I could not have done this launch without you!

I want to continue giving thanks to all those who will make this book launch a
success. I have over 60 fantastic, free, bonus gifts for anyone purchasing my
book TODAY. Select a few or all of them, it’s up to you!

And if you would kindly continue your support and pass this special offer along to
your friends, family, and colleagues, I will be truly grateful! I hope you encourage
others to Zestfully rev up their Curiosity strength and savor my book, “Photo
Adventures in Cuba ~ Unlock Your Power of Positivity.” It’s just a click away!

CLICK to Travel and Explore Positive Cuba!

Remember Clint Eastwood’s famous line, “Go ahead…Make my day!”?
Well, please know you already have!

My gratitude, love, and deepest appreciation,
~ Judy

5 Bad Habits ~ Are you sabotaging work and life success?

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

Are your relationships rockin’ in your personal life and career?
Or is there an angry elephant sitting on your chest?

I know that elephant’s name, and I am going to tell you his secrets!
His name is “Inadequate Social Skills.” Some folks label it
“Poor People Skills.” To get along in your world and find meaning,
purpose, and joy, you need to hone your communication abilities.
Be kind. Give that elephant some bananas to get him to move on.
Prevent him from mashing your happiness!

Not sure where you are on the scale of interpersonal success?
According to Marshall Goldsmith, one of the great business
management gurus in the world, these are the 5 most common
interpersonal habits that put on the brakes on your job and life success:

1. Needing to be right all the time.
You need to ask yourself, “Is it worth it?” before you ladle on criticism.
Avoid using the words, “no,” “but,” and “however.” Be aware of how
many of your comments to others are negative. Remember, long after
they forget what you said, they will remember how you made them feel.
“Right” isn’t always black and white.

2. Not listening.
This is disrespectful. It is imperative you lock your sites onto the person
with whom you are talking. Be fully present and look them straight into
the eyes. Say something good about them or their input. Eliminate
distractions. Nix interrupting them. Respond with authenticity rather
than “ho-hum”. People need to know they are valued, not just their work.

3. Making excuses.
Fessing up with excuses (I used to do this ’cause I thought it would
help others understand) why you didn’t complete a project done,
only makes you look worse. Be sincere. Take responsibility. My
husband, Ken, trained me out of this (well, most of the time!)
He said, ”Don’t complain or explain. State the facts and shut up!”
OK, forget the “shut up” part, but say, “I apologize. This will not
happen again.” Or a simple, “I’m sorry.”

4. Passing judgment on those trying to help you.
If someone offers you an idea, evaluate it before you pass judgment
too quickly. If you know you tend to dispute advice immediately, put
an imaginary piece of duct tape on your mouth. If you are too fast to
criticize, you may scare off the very people whose diverse opinions
may spearhead ideas you had never dreamed. If you disagree, just|
say, “Thank you” or “I appreciate your input.”

5. Getting Angry.
If “hothead” is your nickname, you may think you control others with
anger. But guess again. The relationship price you pay is steep. Anger
may get people to do what you want, but you lose them on many levels.
You forfeit others trusting you, seeking your wisdom, and worst yet,
being afraid to approach you when they need to. Goldsmith fines
executives $20 every time they blow up. He suggests you do this for
yourself. Donate the money to a charity. Even better if it is a charity
you don’t like!

Do you see yourself? Does your personal/professional anger management
need some fine tuning? Perhaps behaviors that need to be deleted or
re-programmed?

Goldsmith, the platinum business coach, says, “Get yourself a coach!”
Ask a friend, colleague, or family member to help you stay on top of
your “improving relationship communication” score card. Admitting to
yourself you have a problem and enlisting the help of a trusted mentor
strengthens your resolve.

Did you know about 20% of your happiness comes from social
interaction? An amazing statistic. I’m going to add my two cents
here. GRATITUDE and PRAISE. Thank everyone in your life for
everything. Now there’s a positivity habit that writes “You Matter”
onto the page of every person you meet.

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Turquoise Runs Rings Around Resilience

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

Has your life ever been hi-jacked? Let me tell you a true story.
It began 4 years ago. How would you feel if this happened to you?

What if you were 89 years old and in one fell swoop lost your identity
as you had known it? You were whisked off to an assisted living center,
your broken ankle in a cast, your butt in a wheelchair, and deaf because
no one remembered to bring along your cochlear implant? Your daughter
is desperately trying to get a plane flight to come and look after you.
Shockingly quick, within a matter of days per your wishes, your house is
sold for a low ball price. You will never see the home you designed and
built 50 years ago. No saying good-bye to your possessions. Never get to
water your precious plants in your beloved greenhouse. No one last time.
Tough to swallow, but at least you rationalize your house was sold. That’s
how fast life locked the door to my Mom’s reality.

Resilience. Pluck. Awareness and acceptance. They all took time.
But her 90th birthday surprise a month later really perked her up.
Connections. Belonging. Tenacity to heal. Petting her sweet Scottie
dog, Katie, once in awhile, made life worth living again. As you know,
Mom is now 93, out of assisted living, and as she put it, “Living like a
princess, no make that a queen!” at Cathy and Bill’s home in Delaware.
She’s the one with two dogs in her lap with 3 larger pups vying for attention.

But one small detail was lacking, not that Mom would ever complain.
Mom’s hands have been knotted and swollen by arthritis for years.
She missed wearing a ring, but she didn’t want me to buy her new ones nor
to have her rings sized larger. But one day a few months ago, she was
philosophically saying she did miss wearing a ring, but she knew none would fit.

You know me; I had a light bulb moment. On my next flight home, I took all
her rings. I also went to an antique shop and bought 3 I thought might fit.
Full of hope, off to Delaware I flew, rings tucked safely in my purse along
with the whole top tray of her old jewelry box.

To see Mom’s face light up when she saw those rings was worth a million bucks.
With vigor and hope in her heart, she delightedly tried on every one. To her
surprise, several fit. Talk about joy! I was praying her 30 year old watch would
work, too, if I could find a battery. Eureka! I lucked out. That old turquoise
time piece kindly began tick-tocking away.

I am in my 6th decade, and it never ceases to amaze me how every time I
visit Mom, I learn something new about life. To savor. To let go of regrets.
To look for the good. To appreciate EVERYTHING! Mom is the poster girl
for living positive psychology and living her best life now.

Turquoise blue like the azure seas of the Pacific…I look down upon this beauty
ever day from our jungle perch here in Puerto Vallarta.  Everyday I think of
Mom wearing her rings and watch.

What has been your toughest life challenge?
Which strengths became your life preserver?
Which ones plastered a smile upon your face again?
Courage, love of learning, forgiveness? What else?

No matter what, you have 24 strengths to choose from everyday to feather
your nest.  Time to soar to new heights. Just like Mom.Did you remember
I wrote a strengths book dedicated to her?

Want to review your strengths and see how to make them work for you?
You can see fun and picturesque 2-page stories in my new book.
Click here to take a peek!

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Destination: Imagination and Family Frolic!

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

© 2011 Dr. Judy Krings

What do you see when you look at this pile of shoes? Is your curiosity piqued?

A mess? Fun? Wonder what was going on?

The kids and four grand kids were here for a pre-Thanksgiving free-for-all.
I love when I wake up and see all the shoe shapes and sizes. I smile knowing
one day soon, the kids will be grown. I will look at this photo and sigh.
Life is so blame short.

Thanks to my friend from KC Candies, Cheryl, (you gotta treat yourself to these!),
we noshed on gigantic, gluttonous caramel toffee apples, deviled eggs I made from
friend Annie’s free-range feathered friends, cinnamon rolls, sweet and sour
meatballs, fruit salad and other goodies. Did you notice I typed the dessert first?
YUMMY!

Then the grand kids braided neon headband/necklaces and decided they made
better Frisbees! Creativity set lose in our lower level. Grins and giggles, school
stories, and the ipad2 games that stumped this Grammy. This tech savvy
foursome made my head spin!

Want to know how to savor holiday flavors? Pause, breathe, and sit in ease.
Freeze frame a happy moment and for Pete’s sake, keep your camera ready;
unless your memory is a whole lot better than mine when antics are in full swing.

What does your family unleash when you congregate and celebrate?
I’d love to know! Any positive reminiscence memories you’d like to share?
How about a game of truth or dare?

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Speaking of treats and life being short…
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Grab your copy of my new book to discover coaching thrills and building new skills.
“Photo Adventures in Cuba ~ Unlock Your Power of Positivity”
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7 Virtues of a Good Man

Posted by Dr. Judy at 3:00 am

© 2011 Dr. Judy Krings

My dear friend, self-made man, Dan Peters, has been through the trenches.
Severe child abuse, electrocution, drug and alcohol abuse, a suicide attempt,
and business challenges have sent him to his knees. Regardless, Dan’s passion
to help others trumps.

Recently, we were rehashing positivity and strengths strategies. Without missing
a beat, he whipped out his recent journal page. I asked him if I could share it
with you. “Absolutely, if it might another, you bet!”

Loves GOD (with all of his mind, all of his heart, all of his soul and all
of his strength): Realizes his life is no accident and allows time each day to give
thanks and praise to his Father GOD. He subjects his will to that of his Creator.

Purposeful: Understands there is but one method for success; time and energy.
He acknowledges life will interject wondrous events and circumstances. He willingly
and inevitably adjusts his initial goals.

Provider: Is mindful of the needs of his spouse, children, friends and self . He
meets these with love, time spent and inspiration (in-spirit). He knows material
things alone can never hope to achieve authentic love.

Trustworthiness: Must first be honest with himself, to discern the real motives
behind his actions; this will facilitate his ability to be honest with others. He has an
uncompromising ethical code based on his values, spirituality and his own experiences.

Unselfishness: Is generous with his time, talent and treasures for the betterment
of others. He has developed a discerning mind to minimize becoming a doormat for
those who would abuse his generous spirit. He is mindful it is better to be used than
to be the user.

Facility for Compassion: Is cognizant of the real, undeserved suffering of others.
He is innately willing to do something about it now. He never forgets charity starts
at home, strengthening him to give more to others.

Seeker of Wisdom: Has chosen upstanding role models. Treats himself as he
would a friend, with knowledge he will experience lapses in judgment and will
make mistakes along the way. He makes use of these events to learn. He remembers
to be grateful always.

Thanks from the bottom of my heart, Dan, for sharing your personal creed. You are
a role model for resilience. Why not share this with all the men you love, your kids,
grand kids and friends? What would you add to your creed? How about sprinkling
some loving kindness your own way, too?

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